It is not easy to be truly tolerant and tolerant, and we are always working to their tolerance to be able to just openly communicate with other people, not belittling their point of view. Says Jaime Balme: “You are not tolerant if you cannot tolerate intolerance.” So, do you tolerate intolerance?
Before we get into that, here’s a simple exercise proposed by the expert on personal growth Pablo Morano. This guide contains a series of questions that can give us a true assessment of where we are in the proposed scale of intolerance.
You are the one who rejects different things? Just say “no” to outsiders, strange, in your opinion, ideas and even eventually look down on them? You are the person who gets annoyed when people with different opinions, there are more opportunities to Express them? Do you think that everyone should think the same as you?
If you answered “Yes” to even one of these questions, it means that you have a certain level of intolerance. We’re talking about levels because, in most cases, if we hold the line between “tolerance” and “intolerance”, we fall along this scale. That is, the answers to these questions will have the same value or set to the same direction. We all have a certain level of tolerance or intolerance, depending on the circumstances and our personality.
“Tolerance is the source of peace, and intolerance – a source of unrest and conflict” – Pierre Bayeux.
The mood of intolerant people
Regardless of other personal characteristics, there are often certain mood of intolerant people. This disposition, always associated with their rigid thinking. Highlight the most notable.
In General, intolerant person demonstrates bigotry, standing up for your beliefs and positions. Whether in political or religious conversations, they usually can’t argue or discuss things, not adhering to extremist views. They think that their way of seeing things is the only. In fact, they are trying to impose to others your view of the world.
Intolerant people are afraid of something else. That is, they are rigid in their psychology. It is difficult to accept that other people might have different philosophy and point of view. So they distanciruemsa from anything that disagrees with their thinking. They do not accept it. It may even make them feel a certain unrest.
Impatient people feel the need to defend myself from people who I think are excellent or even otherwise. Thus, they embellish or make things up, presenting theories as facts and acting knowledgeable in the subjects about which they actually know nothing.
They do not accept and listen to other points of view except their own and believe that their closed attitude is justified. They can even turn to insults and aggression, if they feel backed into a corner and deprived of arguments.
Their world is simple and lacks depth
Impatient people see the world much easier than it really is. That is, they don’t listen, so they are not open to other viewpoints and ways of thinking. So their world is black and white.
It means thinking about such things as “you’re either with me or against me” or “it’s either ugly or beautiful,” “right and wrong”, not realizing that between them there can be a lot of gray. They need security and confidence, even if it’s not real.
They adhere to routine
They usually do not like anything unexpected and spontaneous. They hold onto your routine and things they know well and which give them a sense of security. Otherwise, they very quickly begin to experience stress or even disappointment.
They have problems in relationships
The lack of sympathy from intolerant people can cause serious social problems. They need to fix, to dominate and to always impose their point of view. Therefore, people around them often passive or have low self esteem. Otherwise, their interaction is difficult or impossible.
They are, as a rule, very jealous
An impatient person will find it hard to accept someone else’s success, because this man will always be on another level, and as a result its level will be incorrect. Plus, if this person will be more open and tolerant way of thinking, intolerant people will feel uncomfortable. His anxiety level will increase, because it’s wrong from their point of view. They can also be very jealous at heart.
“The enemy is not fundamentalism, is intolerance” – Stephen Jay Gould.
This General Outlook that we’re seeing in intolerant people in varying degrees. Do you identify yourself with any of them? If so, put an end to it today. Believe me, you’ll be happier and your life will become more intense.
Source: Exploring Your Mind